Jakes_mum, Mum of three

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  Jakes_mum posted a Comment 18/09/2012

  I have always been extremely lucky with conceiving - I'm always pregnant within the month as soon as we decide to try! I know just how lucky I am, especially when my sister doesn't have that same luck. She has polycystic ovaries and was told she would not conceive. But after a couple of years of no birth control (not exactly trying, just not trying not to, if you know what I mean) it happened for her and she now has a lovely daughter.

  

  Hope for TTC

  For all out there TTC, let’s offer our support and give back some hope – how long did it take you to conceive?

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  Jakes_mum posted a Comment 29/02/2012

  It could be your sciatic nerve is being pinched. I had that in a huge way with my second - when I got out of bed I had to lean against the wall for 5 minutes or so until my leg would support me! I've heard it's quite common in pregnancy cos of the extra weight etc. If you're worried, see your midwife.

  

  Sharp pains in right leg

  I'm getting sharp pains like a pinched nerve from my right side in lower back that shoots down my leg unexpectedly, what is it!!!!! i'm nearly 39weeks

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  Jakes_mum posted a Comment 28/02/2012

  Actually, I very nearly was on my own. I had my third elective caesar with Jake, and despite knowing what was going to happen, what to expect etc, and explaining it to my hubby, he really didn't want to be in the room! It took a fair bit of persuasion to get him to agree to be there. I'm just glad I didn't have a natural birth, cos I reckon he would have done a runner!!! As it was, he survived the "trauma" of it (everything went smoothly, as I told him it would!) and is glad he was there, and all I can tell him is "I told you so!"

  Remember you're not on your own

  Partners can often be left feeling a bit lost or unhelpful during labour, with mum being the focus of all the attention. Similarly, mums can feel like they are all alone and nobody understands what they are going through. There are plenty of ways to get your partner involved during the birth, which are genuinely helpful to you. Your partner can be your birth advocate, making sure you are getting what you asked for. They can put everything they've learnt in antenatal classes to good use, especially a comforting and relaxing massage, back-rub or even just a cuddle. They can keep you cool and comfortable and just help keep your spirits up. Make sure you talk with your partner about the birth before you go into labour so you're both clear on their role and you feel like you are going into this together. If your partner is anxious, have them talk to the midwife about looking after you in labour, so they can have more confidence. They may be able to suggest some helpful jobs! For other tips, feel free to give us a call, email or live chat; we’re ready to help answer any questions you might have, no matter how big or small!

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  Jakes_mum posted a Comment 24/02/2012

  Christmas Day 1999 - I put my 8-month-old on one of these swings for his first swing, strapped him in, secured him properly, made sure I kept a good grip on him, pushed him ever-so-slightly. Somehow, he leaned forward tipped himself over, fell out of the silly thing and did a faceplant in the sand! Even though I was still holding onto his arm! Took me a while to get over it and I think he was almost 2 before I put him in a swing again!

  

  Swing time!

  First time on a swing! Not sure he looks happy but he was smiling soon after :-)

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  Jakes_mum posted a Comment 16/02/2012

  The sex organs are all formed by week 12, apparently, but the ultrasound operators have always told me it's too soon to tell by then. From memory, a scan at week 16 or so should pick it up, and you'll most probably be able to see by the 20-week scan. Keep in mind, though, that sometimes the bub is in a position so you can't see, and sometimes the operator won't tell! Good luck!

  When is the right time!

  I'm just so anxious to find out the sex of my little jelly bean! When is the earliest week that I can find out the sex?

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  Jakes_mum posted a Comment 16/02/2012

  Aw shucks, thanks. I was a single mum for several years, got called a lot of things. It was hard work, but we got through it.

  Single mums, we look up to you amazing women!

  I have the utmost respect for single mums across the world, they are amazing! The things they do for their children, no matter the age. Ladies, whoever calls you lazy, says you're a 'couch potato' or not worth it, I want all of you to realize, you're all worth it! You're all amazing, and all so beautiful! If people could just stop, close their eyes and see with their heart, they would realize so much more, that single mothers, really are heroes, and deserve a lot more than what they get now, keep it up mums! You're all amazing.

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  Jakes_mum posted a Comment 13/02/2012

  Oh, congratulations! All the best for the exciting journey ahead of you!

  

  Can't believe it!!!!

  So this is the second test that I did given that hubby didn't believe the faint line which showed up on the first two! After this he finally believed me. This is our first child and we have been trying to fall for 3+ years! So Excited!!!!

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  Jakes_mum posted a Comment 13/02/2012

  Yep, the spit-clean, swore I wouldn't do it, done it some. Also yelling at my kids. When I was young and naive and fresh from a "interatction" with my parents, I swore I would never be so uncivilised and mean as to yell at my children. Couldn't my parents see that there was no need for it, that a simple quiet word or two was adequate? Didn't they know that all they had to do was speak? Hahahahahahahaha! Yep, I've yelled at my kids.......and laughed at my 17-year-old self......and apologised to my parents!!!

  What did you used to say before being a mum that you would never do?

  Mine was licking my finger & rubbing my kids face. Um, done it :)

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  Jakes_mum posted a Comment 13/02/2012

  I used to trick my boys with the reasonable choice trick. They'd want a lolly at the supermarket, and sometimes instead of saying no altogether, I'd say "ok, you can choose this box of sultanas with mango or this box of sultanas with apple" and they'd get so caught up in trying to decide that they'd forget what the original wish was. Still kind of works, even though they're 10 and 12 now, but I have to be a bit sneakier with it! I still get my way, but they kind of feel like they've got a bit of choice about it.

  

  What do you do to trick your kids?

  You know like the sneaky swap when they want one thing & you want them to have another.....

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  Jakes_mum posted a Comment 13/02/2012

  Worse. So much worse. My mum was great at helping me out with a lot of stuff when my babies were very young, and she gave me some great advice. But when we had a difference of opinion on something, it turned ugly. It's very sad, but my mother was of the opinion that, because she'd had 3 children, she knew so much more than me and that therefore, everything I said about how I wanted my children raised was utterly wrong and to be ignored. It did not matter to her that a lot can change in 25 years. It did not matter that I had got advice from doctors, nurses, teachers, books etc. If she did not agree with what I thought, she would just do what she wanted to do. Which resulted in her feeding my children ice-cream for lunch (not as dessert after lunch, but for lunch), which would be ok as a treat, yes, grandmothers do that sort of thing occasionally to spoil their grandkids. But my mother was minding my children 4 or 5 days a week while I worked for my father. And she fed them orange juice and chocolate to the point that the second child developed an allergy which meant he couldn't have more than a freddo frog without throwing up for two days. And the eldest needed 12 fillings in his teeth at the age of 7. And it didn't matter what I said, she kept on to the point that I have not spoken to her for almost 6 years. She hasn't even seen Jake. I just wanted to protect my kids and be a good mum, but I lost my own mum over it, because she could not accept that I was a half-way intelligent adult with a right to my own opinions about parenting. Such a shame.....

  Has being a mum given you a new appreciation for your mum?

  Has your relationship with your mum changed since becoming a mother yourself? Is it better or worse?

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